Bedroom Confidence for Good Women

“What the human being is best at doing is interpreting all new information so that their prior conclusions remain intact.” -Warren Buffet Have you ever known someone who believed something so deeply, they would not consider that they were wrong...no matter what the evidence said?  If you were the one trying to convince them otherwise, I bet it was frustrating for you.   Our brains have sort of a filter on them.  Our brains interpret all the information presented to us through the filter of our own belief system.  This why two different people can take the exact same fact and prove two different points.   Let's look at this example.  A husband cooks dinner for the family and then goes to rest in the bedroom after a long day of work.  One wife might think, "I am so grateful to have a husband that would work all day and still be willing to cook dinner for us. I am willing to clean up in return."  Another wife might think, "Ugh! Why does he even bother to c

There have been a few times lately, mostly when my kids are being a bit difficult, that I have wished I could go back to when they were babies (you know, when they weren't able to say rude things or express their displeasure with the dinner I just spent hours preparing). I just know if I could have only one day with them as a baby again, I would savor each second.  Then the thought comes, "One day you'll wish you could have this moment back, so you could savor every moment." Remember the early days of your relationship with your husband?  You probably didn't have kids, a college degree or a steady source of income.  You were probably dreaming of days when you could hold your future babies, graduate with that degree and land your dream job.  You were so eager to see what the future would hold. In hindsight, are there things you miss about that time in your relationship?  Would you appreciate the simplicity of that life?  If you could relive a week of your e

My husband tells me my brain is like a vault.  What that really means is, he thinks I remember every negative thing he has ever done.  He used to be worried that I would lock all of his mistakes or faults in my vault and later use them as ammunition in the heat of the moment.  I confess, that I may have been guilty of this at one time or another, but I've learned something that has made me change the way I see the things from our past that get stored in the vault periodically.  If you are having trouble letting go of past mistakes that your husband has made, you may benefit from what I have learned.  If you are continuing to experience hurt and pain over the choices your husband has made previously in your relationship, please keep reading. First, can you do me a favor and be really open-minded for a second?  I want you to think about the possibility that the past cannot hurt you.  Absolutely nothing in the past can hurt you right now.  It's over.  It has alrea