Bedroom Confidence for Good Women

Does your phone or computer ever buffer? You know that little circle just keeps turning and you keep waiting. It can be a little frustrating at times, especially when it takes forever and nothing loads. Sometimes I buffer too.  In fact most of us do, and it isn't really good for us. As far as humans are concerned, buffering is what we do to avoid pain or a negative emotion.  When we are sad and we eat all the sugary foods.  When we are stressed and we veg out in front of the TV for hours.  When we are lonely and we scroll through Facebook half of the day.  These are all forms of buffering. Does it matter?  Probably.  If we buffer so much that we aren't able to stay present with our life and work through the emotions we are feeling, it can stifle our growth and cause us to become stuck in a place of suffering. Buffering or avoiding emotion does not make our negative emotions go away, it just makes us not see or feel them for a time. Unfortunately, we feel wor

Do you have teenagers?  Or kids that will one day be teenagers? If so, you have probably thought about the possibility of your child being exposed to porn. Brian Willoughby, BYU professor and researcher says we shouldn't be teaching our kids about pornography by saying, "If you see pornography...", rather he says we should use the phrase "When you are exposed to pornography..." That's right, WHEN.  Willoughby says 100% of high school graduates will be exposed to some type of pornography before they finish their high school years. What does this mean for our kids and the rising generation? Well, that all depends. Research out of Brigham Young University  examined effects of pornography use.  A major component of the research explored the "Damaged Goods Hypothesis"; the theory that some people come to view themselves as deficient or tainted, as a result of what they believe to be immoral behavior. Research found, the more shame a pe

I am a Certified Life Coach who works primarily with Latter Day Saint women.  I often get asked what a life coach does, or how life coaching differs from therapy.  I think everyone should know! Tony Robbins describes it this way.  "The fundamentals of life coaching are what distinguish it from therapy.  Life coaches do not diagnose, while therapists determine illnesses and pathologies- so clients can be clinically treated.  Therapists analyze client's pasts as a tool for understanding present behaviors, whereas life coaches simply identify and describe current problematic behaviors so the client can work to modify them." A life coach might be helpful in: - Clarifying and achieving personal and professional goals - Working to improve communication and other relationship skills -Achieving work/life balance A therapist might be helpful in: - Recovering from past trauma -Working through depression and anxiety that inhibit daily functions - Sustaining through