There is Nothing Wrong With You!

Did you know adult attitudes toward sexual intimacy are largely conditioned during childhood and adolescence?  

In our youthful years, we are like sponges absorbing and believing all that our parents and leaders tell us (or are afraid to tell us).  If you were taught that sex is bad, dirty, or should be avoided at all costs, you might be one of the otherwise well-adjusted wives who still think of intimate relations (even after marriage) as evil, wrong or just another chore. 

This is what I want you to know if you are feeling this way. There is nothing wrong with you.  In fact it makes perfect sense that you feel this way.

For years you were taught to bridle all those feelings.  Do not think about sexual desires.  Do not indulge in those types of behaviors.  Do not talk about those types of things....and the list goes on.

Then one day you knelt across an altar and covenanted to "be one" for the rest of eternity and you were expected to flip the switch.  Now in order to fulfill your role as a happy wife you should indulge in sexual intimacy and be perfectly comfortable in your new role.

Can you see the problem?  We can’t immediately unwind all of this neurological conditioning and wiring, yet we are expected to suddenly be able to enjoy our husbands on the most intimate level.

So many of us have no idea how to make things better.  Our marriages are struggling. We feel defective or broken, and we have no one to reach out to for help.

One wife explained, "If we could just figure out how to make things work in the bedroom, it would change our marriage completely."

If you are feeling this way, I want you to know that your brain is working exactly as it should.  I also want you to know that you do not have to continue to suffer in silence.

Sexual intimacy can be one of the most connecting and affirmative parts of your relationship, or it can be one of the most contentious and painful parts of the marriage.

Want to transform your intimacy in the bedroom and finally enjoy the connection and intimacy that you've been dreaming about?

Need some help unlearning all those negative associations your brain made during those younger years?  Contact me here for a safe place to talk.  We'll take a gospel centered approach to solving your biggest marital stumbling block.  

There is nothing wrong with you.  You are not alone.  I've got you sister 💗