An Open Letter to the One Who Just Doesn't Understand Why I Chose This Work
I won’t lie.
I have
struggled with being a people pleaser at some points in my life.
Some of you will be surprised by that and some of you won’t.
The truth is, I think we all have a
desire to be accepted and admired by the people in our circle.
I ran across this quote recently, “If you can’t handle being
talked about, then you’re not ready for success.”
It made me stop.
I
mean, I want to be successful…but am I ready to be talked about?
Luckily, I didn’t have to worry about that yet. I wasn’t “successful” for people to start
talking about me.
I’d cross that bridge
when I got to it.
I just didn’t know it, but I WAS already there.
I come from small town USA, and I love it! I love the friendly gestures and
hospitality. The smiles, waves and
friendly conversations in the check out lines, with complete strangers. I even love the southern drawl that marks the
words we speak.
With this small town living also comes small town talk. This can be good and hard.
If you get sick or have an unfortunate accident, the whole
community will know and be at your aid, saying prayers and bringing you tons of
comfort food in no time flat.
If you decide to do something that pushes the boundaries or
do something outside of the norm, you better believe the whole community will
know that too and will be talking about you in no time flat.
It’s OK. I get
it. I have certainly had my share of
thoughts and perhaps judgments about what other people are doing as well.
I even had to go through the process of making sure I,
myself, was OK with what I was deciding to do.
So, if anyone’s interested in talking about the real process
of why and how I decided to do something a little out of the norm. Here are five things I hope you’ll work into
your conversations about me and my work.
1- I felt very prompted to do this work and didn’t take it
lightly.
3- I talked to my husband, kids, mentors, church leaders and
other family members, before I decided to go all in.
4- I’m passionate about strengthening marriages and families
and will do my part to help.
5- The more women I work with, the more I realize they need a
safe place to talk about private issues they feel like they’ve had to hide—issues
that are simultaneously wreaking havoc on their marriages.
These things are important to me. I'm privy to transformations that are so
rewarding. That’s why I’m all in!
If it doesn’t make sense to you, that’s OK. It doesn’t have to be your thing. I still love you.
Go out and give the world whatever it is that does resonate
with you and we’ll both do our thing and contribute in the way we were meant to
exist in the world.
xoxo,
Rhonda
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