Create Happiness

President Ezra Taft Benson taught: "Marriage...is the most glorious and most exalting principle of the gospel of Jesus Christ. No ordinance is of more importance and none more sacred and more necessary to the eternal joy of man.  Faithfulness to the marriage covenant brings the fullest joy here and glorious rewards here after."

Does this quote give you hope that you can be happy in your marriage, or does it leave you feeling disappointed and hurt that you didn't marry someone who makes you feel glorious, exalted, joyful and happy? 

Sometimes, as perfectionists, we are so worried about what we think our relationship is supposed to look like, we don't allow room to create our own unique and sacred union.  I spent years trying          to have my marriage look "just right", instead of embracing it for the unique union that it was.  Trust me, this does not create much happiness in a relationship.

How much joy and happiness do you create in your marriage?  It is easy to talk about how much happiness we want to feel.  It is easy to talk about how much happiness we think we should feel.  I want you to take a few seconds to think about how your marriage would be different if your goal was to create happiness each day.

Having trouble figuring out how you can embrace your relationship for what it is and create your own happiness?  Set up a free mini-session to chat today! Contact me here.

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